We’ll know it when we get there - or maybe not

Posted on February 6, 2008 by Brian

As I think about whether to move on from our current church one of the hesitations is that I don’t have a complete picture of what I should be looking for. And that bothers me. I’m a systems analyst by trade and that side of my personality likes to know where I’m at, where I’m going, and how I’m going to get there. Along with an accompanying process flow diagram, of course. :)

I recognize that in myself but I also recognize that real life isn’t necessarily going to appease my personal quirks. So I just have to deal. That doesn’t mean there are no guidelines or parameters. Just that they aren’t as concrete as I might like. And part of the reason it’s like that is that no matter how complete the checklist, there’s always going to be that ineffable something that you only know by actually being there. Call it intuition or the Spirit or whatever.

Quite frankly, I could do without all that experiencing. Not because I’m opposed to the subjective(although being a mentat does sound cool) but because it means that, well, you have to experience it. And that takes time. And even after all that time you can still end up being wrong. Ugh.

So will we know it when we get there? Maybe…. more likely it’ll be a case of figuring what’s most important to us and what are we willing to let slip by the wayside. But we could be surprised, who knows?

10 Comments »

Comment by Brian

February 6, 2008 @ 3:41 pm

Just wanted to say that we did visit a church this past Sunday but I had started writing this post over a month ago and wanted to finish it.

Comment by Milly

February 7, 2008 @ 2:27 pm

I’m praying for you.

My husband left the church a few months ago and has yet to look for a new church. I know it’s hard to go and hard to stay.

Blessings to you and your family.

Comment by Rusty

February 10, 2008 @ 10:16 am

Big decisions are always difficult to make (in the context of not knowing the outcome). Most important, in my mind, is that one stay within God’s guidelines, and make decisions based on using good judgment and wisdom. We teach our children, as they mature, to learn to make good decisions (and not rely solely on our direction). I think it’s much the same way in our relationship with God.

Comment by Brian

February 11, 2008 @ 3:32 pm

Milly - Thanks for you for your concern and your prayers. That means a lot, really. I’m also praying for you and your situation.

Rusty - Thanks, and I agree with you entirely. I’m a big fan of Friesen and Koukl and their views on Decision Making. They way I wrote it was kind of up for interpretation but I simply meant that you can have all your doctrinal ducks lined up but there are still the intangibles to take into account. Thanks for taking the time to comment and I appreciate what you said.

Comment by Milly

February 13, 2008 @ 1:09 am

Thanks Brian my kids and I need those prayers

Comment by nancy

February 13, 2008 @ 10:45 pm

you are the church…and so am i.
God lives within us.
believers are part of the body of Christ.
i do not think that getting together as has to be called church…or you can call it church if you want to.

God is with you, do not worry or fear. Give it all to God. :-) i know you think this sounds too simple…but, give it a try. maybe not as simple as it sounds, maybe more of Gods way than you think.

Comment by Brian

February 14, 2008 @ 3:14 pm

Thanks for the encouragement, Nancy. While we do believe that we are part of the church universal, we’d still like to find local body to be a part of. In all of that, I do trust that God will be with is no matter how and where we are gathering with His people. And I trust Him to guide us in ways that are seen and unseen.

Comment by Clare

March 11, 2008 @ 8:45 am

Analyst, for sure. This decision has to be at least 5 years in the making, if not more. I want details … perhaps a phone call????

Comment by Brian

March 11, 2008 @ 8:58 am

“At least” is right. Although it hasn’t all been analysis paralysis. Remarkably, Jenn and I have pretty much been in agreement on staying and going and what the timing should be. But we definitely have different methods of coming to our conclusions.

I don’t doubt that you’ll be receiving a phone call pretty soon… :)

Comment by Jenn

March 11, 2008 @ 9:48 am

Okay, okay, I’ll call! It’s been a while since we’ve just chatted, hasn’t it? I keep forgetting that you’re not in classes and otherwise as busy as you were last year. The kids are on spring break this week, so it might mean having to put in a movie or something, which will rot their brains, so when they ask why they’re not as smart as other kids I’ll tell them it was all your fault. :D

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